Stop Playing Small: It’s Time to Walk in Your Purpose

Alright, let’s get straight to it. Have you ever felt like you were meant for more? Like there’s a deeper, more divine reason for your existence other than just waking up, going to work, paying bills, and doing the same dry routine every day until the end of time? If that question hit you right in the gut, then baby, this post is for you.

That little voice inside your head, the one whispering that you were made for something greater. It ain’t lying. That’s your soul talking. That’s your higher self trying to tap you on the shoulder and remind you who the hell you really are -- before the world piled on fear, expectations, and a whole lot of “shoulds.” It’s time to stop ignoring that voice and start living in your purpose. And no, I’m not talking about that vague, fluffy “follow your dreams” pep talk. I’m talking about getting real, trusting yourself, owning your gifts and stepping boldly into the life your ancestors prayed for, and the stars aligned for you to always live. So, go grab your tea, your journal and let’s get into it.

What Even Is Your Purpose?

Sooo, let’s start with what the world says. The textbook definition of purpose “is the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists.”

Cute. Kinda. But dry as hell. Kinda like something you'd read in a dusty career development manual. Now let’s flip it.

My definition of purpose is what your soul came here to do before the world told you who you “should” be. It’s that sacred inner pull that keeps showing up, even when you try to shut it down. It’s your spiritual assignment custom designed by the Divine and confirmed by every lesson, every heartbreak, and every breakthrough you’ve ever had. It’s that inner fire that keeps tapping you on the shoulder, saying “Hey girl… remember me?”

Your purpose is what makes you feel alive, what brings you joy, that thing that sets your soul on fire. It’s what you’d still do if nobody clapped for you or if nobody posted it. It could be creating art, mentoring, mothering, healing, writing, organizing, building, storytelling, teaching, or even just being the glue that holds your community together by being a safe space for people. It ain’t about clout, how many followers you have or a cute job title. It’s not a salary, trying to match what everyone else is doing on Instagram and it’s definitely not about what your mama, your cousin, or your 9th grade teacher said you should be doing. Purpose is alignment. It's knowing you’re in the right place, doing the right thing, for the right reasons -- even if nobody sees it but you and God. Your purpose doesn’t always come with a title but it always comes with impact. And listen, impact don’t mean changing the whole damn world in one swoop. If you light up one person’s path, you’re walking in purpose. And let’s keep it real -- some of y’all think your purpose has to be glamorous or Insta-worthy to be valuable. Nah, sis. Some of the realest world-changers are lowkey as hell. Purpose is sacred, not performative. Your purpose is your why, your legacy, your medicine.

And baby, don’t forget your astrology chart and life path numbers already got ALL the tea. Your zodiac sun sign shines where you’re meant to lead. Your life path number? It’s your soul’s GPS, showing you were to pour your gifts. This ain’t random. Depending on your unique make up, your purpose will look totally different from someone else’s -- and that’s the point. A Leo’s glow won’t look like a Cancer’s calm. A Life Path 1’s boldness won’t feel like a Life Path 7’s wisdom. But both are powerful. You gotta trust YOUR divine blueprint. You were born with the map inside you. It’s time to follow it.

How Do You Know You’re Aligned With Your Purpose?

When you’re aligned with your purpose, life starts hitting different. You don’t just do things -- you feel them, deeply. You start moving from the soul instead of surviving off routines, rules, and recycled expectations. Alignment is spiritual. Emotional. Physical. Cosmic. You feel it in your body, in your gut, in your spirit guides whispering, "Yup, this the path." Once you have a taste of that kind of alignment? Baby, you can’t go back to basic.

Joy Is Different When Your Aligned

Even when the work is challenging (pulling long nights, learning new things, navigating uncharted territory) something about it feeds you. You’re tired, sure, but you’re full. It’s the kind of tired that comes with purpose, not burnout. And that fulfillment? It runs deep. You wake up with that sacred oomph because you’re doing what you were born to do. It don’t matter if everything around you is chaotic -- you’ve got peace because your spirit knows it’s walking in truth. That’s why your Life Path number matters: it gives you clues to what your soul signed up for. A Life Path 4, for example, finds joy in building solid foundations. Life Path 9? They glow when they’re helping others evolve.

You Feel Like... You

Sis, alignment makes you feel like you again -- maybe even for the first time in a long time. You're not acting. You're not code-switching. You’re not shrinking, toning yourself down, or editing your essence for anyone else's comfort. You’re finally operating from your truth and it shows. Your Sun sign flavor starts radiating naturally. Like a Leo in their spotlight, or a Cancer nurturing with love and sensitivity, you’re showing up as the real, whole version of you and people feel that. They respond to it. Your interactions shift from surface-level to soul-deep. You’re no longer craving connection -- you’re attracting it, because what’s real will always recognize what’s real. You start attracting aligned people and opportunities. Doors open, support arrives, and the right energies flow into your life like, “Hey girl, we’ve been waiting on you.” It feels like magic, but don’t get it twisted -- it’s divine alignment. The Universe sees you showing up, and it starts matching your energy. Period.

Growth Becomes a Lifestyle, Not a Burden

When you’re walking in your purpose, even your mess starts to feel meaningful. You’re not scared of failure anymore because you understand that failure is feedback, not a full stop. You learn from your L’s. You reflect, grow, and evolve. You’re not stuck in perfectionism but instead you’re grounded in progress. You’re not here for the cute, polished spiritual bypassing; you’re here to grow through what you go through. You become more compassionate with yourself. More forgiving. You stop dragging yourself for what you didn’t know or couldn’t do back then. You start saying, “I did my best with what I had, and now I’m doing better.” That kind of healing only comes when real alignment locks in.

You Trust Yourself Loudly

That little voice inside starts getting louder and you stop second-guessing it. You’re way more tuned in and your intuition is no longer that quiet whisper you ignore. Now that voice is your personal GPS that you use for guidance. You might not always know the full plan, but you know the next step -- and that’s enough. Your Moon sign (which rules your emotions and inner self) also starts to speak up. A Taurus Moon might seek peace and stability to feel aligned, while a Sagittarius Moon needs freedom and purpose. You start honoring those needs without apology and here's the blessing: you start making decisions that actually feel not just right but also good. You’re not choosing based on fear or “shoulds.” You’re choosing based on peace. On clarity. On spiritual downloads. You stop ignoring red flags and start trusting divine timing. You're co-creating with the Universe now. And baby trust me you’ve never felt anything more powerful.

You Stop Fighting and Start Flowing

Everything doesn’t magically become easy, but the resistance starts to fade. You’re no longer pushing against your own truth. Instead, you’re flowing with it. You’re in rhythm with your calling. Your thoughts, feelings, and actions begin to harmonize. You stop self-sabotaging. You stop dimming and when a challenge comes up, you face it from a place of clarity instead of chaos. You feel the shift in your energetic body. You move with more grace. You recover faster. You stop trying to be “perfect” and start focusing on being present. You know who you are and you walk like it. Even in the messy moments, there's a weird but beautiful inner peace. You could be broke, confused, or unsure, but if you're walking in alignment, you know it's temporary. You can feel you’re on the right path. You’re not asking for signs every five seconds instead you embody the sign. Sis, hear me when I say: you’re not behind; you’re just waking up. Whether you’re 25, 35, 45, or 65, your purpose hasn’t passed you. It's been waiting for you to stop playing small and step into who you’ve always been.

Finding Your Purpose (Because It’s Been Waiting on You, Sis)

Let’s not sugarcoat it: finding your purpose ain’t about reading a bunch of self-help books and manifesting in circles. Though these are great tools to use, your purpose is about remembering who you were before the world told you who to be. It’s about unlearning, tuning out the noise and tuning back into your soul’s original blueprint. Your purpose isn’t lost it’s already inside of you. It's been there since before you took your first breath but somewhere along the way, society, family, trauma, and systems tried to bury it under expectations, survival mode and under the “be strong” mask they handed you, way too young, to disconnect you from it. They told you to “be realistic,” to “play it safe,” to “stop dreaming so big.” That’s the programming you’ve been living under; but now, we’re breaking the spell because what’s divine can’t be destroyed, it can only be forgotten for a little while. This is your call to remember.

Let’s dig into where that purpose has been hiding all along:

Go Back to What Lit You Up as a Kid

Before the world told you to be small and sensible, your spirit was already showing out. That version of you, the one who played teacher to invisible students, turned cardboard boxes into castles, or spent hours writing poems in glitter gel pens -- she knew. There’s sacred truth in your earliest joys. It’s no coincidence that many spiritual traditions say the child self holds the purest energy. That’s divine memory.

That’s soul recall. Don’t ignore the signs the Universe left for you back then: the books you hoarded, the games you made up, the way you loved helping others even when nobody told you to. That wasn’t random. That was spiritual DNA showing off. Look at your natal chart through a child’s lens. What was your Rising sign as a kid before the world got to you? That’s how your soul naturally shows up in the world. A Leo Rising child was born to shine. An Aquarius Rising was born to challenge norms. That version of you isn’t gone, she’s waiting for you to circle back.

What Comes Naturally to You?

Everybody’s out here trying to find their magic, but yours might be so natural you don’t even see it as special. Your “just something I do” is someone else’s answered prayer. That’s a sacred gift that shouldn’t be overlooked. Your gifts are ancestral, and you didn’t just “get good” at that thing. Your grandmothers prayed for your clarity. Your bloodline carried certain talents through generations so you could unlock what they never got the chance to. The spiritual realm ain’t subtle, if you’re constantly attracting people who need advice, encouragement, healing, or vision pay attention. Your gift is being summoned. Numerology will back you up here. Your Expression/Destiny Number shows how you’re built to move through the world. Destiny Number 1 is here to lead with bold vision. Destiny Number 6 is here to nurture, beautify, and bring harmony. Your essence isn’t an accident -- it’s an assignment. So, what do you do with ease that lights others up too? That’s the sweet spot. That’s the intersection of your divinity and your duty.

What Would You Do Even If Nobody Paid You?

Here is something I want you to remember -- purpose is deeper than chasing a check. If money wasn’t part of the equation, where would your energy flow?

Think about it: when you’re in your zone writing, building, caring, creating -- you don’t check the clock. You don’t care if anybody claps. That’s real joy. That’s sacred labor. That’s what your soul came here to contribute. This is bigger than passion. Passion comes and goes. Purpose stays even when it’s inconvenient. It keeps tugging on you when you try to ignore it. That’s the assignment. Your Midheaven (MC) in your natal chart speaks to your highest calling, how you’re meant to be seen. If your MC is in Cancer, you might feel pulled toward healing, nurturing, or home-centered work. If it’s in Aries, leadership, courage, and starting movements may be part of your path. The stars don’t lie! They’re just waiting for you to listen. So, ask yourself: what would you still be doing even if it never led to applause? That’s the holy ground. That’s where God lives in your hustle.

How Can You Serve?

Your purpose ain’t about you hoarding light it’s about becoming a lighthouse. Let me be clear: true purpose always multiplies. It heals beyond your own life. It ripples. Don’t get it twisted, service doesn’t mean self-sacrifice or martyrdom. It means you’re so tapped in with your assignment that helping others becomes a byproduct of your glow. You pour because you’re overflowing, not because you’re trying to prove something. You can’t keep your gifts locked up in your journal or in your notes app waiting for “the right time.” The right time is when someone needs you. And trust—someone does. The Universe has a way of magnetizing people toward the light they need. If folks keep coming to you for guidance, support, laughter, healing, or clarity -- baby, you’ve been activated. Stop waiting for a platform. Your platform is your presence. Chiron, the wounded healer in your chart, shows you what pain you’ve been called to transmute into power. If your Chiron is in Libra, maybe you’ve had to learn balance in relationships so you can teach it. If it’s in Taurus, maybe you’ve struggled with self-worth so you can help others find theirs. Remember, your hardships and lessons weren’t meant to break you; they were meant to build you. Every challenge was part of your transformation, not just for your healing, but so you could become a beacon for others. You’re not broken, sis. You’re initiated.

Be Open to the Journey

Let’s stop acting like purpose is a one-lane road with a final destination. It’s not a box you check off, it’s a lifelong dance with your soul’s unfolding. Some seasons you’ll feel clear. Other seasons you’ll feel lost. That’s the divine design. The dark nights, detours, “WTF is happening phases are all part of the process. You are not meant to be the same version of yourself every year. That would be spiritual stagnation. Life is going to evolve you. You’ll shift careers, release old dreams, birth new ones, and pivot when the calling shifts. That’s not confusion -- it’s spiritual maturity. Mutable signs like Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, and Pisces understand this best; you’re wired to evolve. Life Path 5s, too, you thrive in change and resisting it only brings chaos. Stop trying to force a permanent version of yourself in a temporary season. What’s for you today might not be what’s for you forever and that’s okay. Stay open. Stay obedient to the whispers. Spirit will guide your steps even when you can’t see the whole staircase. Your purpose is fluid, not fixed. Trust the waves.

The Daily Work of Living in Purpose

Walking in your purpose sounds cute until you realize it’s not just a vibe -- it’s a practice. A daily, intentional, sometimes uncomfortable practice. This isn’t about “finding” your purpose once and coasting. It’s about choosing it over and over. When it’s fun. When it’s messy. When it’s quiet. When you’re tired. When you’re doubting. When you feel invisible. That’s the real work. Purpose is a spiritual contract, not a personality trait. And baby, the Universe is watching how you show up for it. Not to punish you but to see if you’re serious about this next level because when you say “yes” to purpose, the path will test you before it blesses you. Not because Spirit is cruel but because alignment requires real stamina.

Let’s talk about what this daily grind really looks like:

You Show Up When No One’s Watching

This is where a lot of people tap out. They want purpose to come with applause, followers, and validation. But the real ones? They build in silence. They create in the shadows. They plant seeds no one sees and water them anyway. Living in purpose means understanding that visibility is a season, not a requirement. Some of your most powerful work will happen in private, when you’re crying and praying and wondering if it’s all worth it. That’s when the divine is closest. That’s when your ancestors gather round to whisper, keep going.

You Honor Your Craft Without Chasing Perfection

Let go of the need to always get it “right.” Purpose isn’t a performance -- it’s a practice. That means you’re gonna mess up, course correct, evolve, outgrow, and restart. That’s not failure; that’s refinement. Think of your purpose like a spiritual muscle. You must use it daily to build it. That means writing even when it’s not flowing. Speaking even when your voice shakes. Creating even when your confidence is at zero. You don't wait to feel inspired -- you commit. Your North Node in your birth chart shows where your soul is trying to grow. That path won’t feel natural at first. That’s why it’s your lesson. The more you stretch into it, the more natural it becomes. This is sacred weight training, and Spirit is spotting you.

You Make Purpose-Driven Choices Daily

Every “yes” and “no” is either aligning you or delaying you. Let’s not act like small choices don’t matter. Who you give your energy to. How you spend your time. What you consume. What you tolerate. It’s all shaping your frequency. Living in your purpose means protecting your peace. You can’t hear divine instruction over the noise of drama, comparison, and distractions. Purpose isn’t always fireworks it’s often boundaries. Discipline. Knowing when to walk away. Knowing when to stay home and get quiet with your calling.

You Trust the Process, Even When You Can’t See the Results

Whew. This one right here! It’s the test that’ll make or break you, because there will be days -- sometimes whole seasons -- when it looks like nothing is happening. You’re putting in the work, and the fruit just ain’t showing up yet. That’s not failure. That’s root work. Trees don’t sprout the day after you plant them. Neither does purpose. Some of your seeds require divine timing, and you’re being asked to hold the faith without proof. That’s a flex most people don’t talk about. When the vision isn’t visible, you rely on your intuition; that deep, inner GPS that keeps nudging you forward. And guess what? That intuition is strongest when you’re spiritually tuned in. Meditate. Journal. Pull a card. Light your altar. Do whatever keeps you connected to your Source. Angel numbers might start popping up during this season. 111 when you’re setting new intentions, 444 when you’re being divinely protected, 888 when abundance is circling you. Don’t dismiss those nudges. That’s your spiritual team sending updates.

You Align More Than You Grind

Purpose isn’t just about hustle -- it’s about harmony. It’s not just about doing more; it’s about becoming more aligned. You can grind all day and still feel empty if the work isn’t connected to your spirit, but when you’re aligned, there’s flow. That’s not a fantasy, that’s what divine alignment feels like. You wake up feeling energized, even if the work is challenging. You cross paths with people who get you. You start seeing synchronicities --emails, conversations, dreams -- that confirm you’re on the right track. It feels like magic and that’s not a coincidence. That’s your Higher Self orchestrating divine rhythm because when you’re doing what you came here to do, your soul knows it and it will keep finding ways to remind you.

Let’s Talk About Money and Purpose

Somebody reading this is thinking, “Sis, I would love to follow my purpose, but these bills don’t pay themselves.” And I hear you. Purpose doesn’t mean you gotta quit your job today and start from scratch. Sometimes, you work on your purpose alongside your job until it can sustain you. And sometimes, your purpose is tied to your current work, but you need to shift your mindset to see it. Your purpose and your paycheck don’t have to be enemies. Find ways to merge them. If you’re a healer, maybe that means bringing more compassion into your workplace. If you’re creative, maybe it means using your downtime to build your dream. Wanting financial stability doesn’t make you greedy. Wanting to be paid well for your gifts doesn’t make you selfish. It makes you human and spiritually aware that humans know that money is an energy resource, a tool, a mirror. Let me say this plain: there is nothing holy about being broke and burnt out in the name of purpose. Period. Whatever it looks like, don’t let money be the excuse that keeps you stuck.

You might not make money from your purpose right away. That doesn’t mean it’s not worth pursuing. You don’t plant a seed and expect a full tree tomorrow. Same goes for your calling. Sometimes your purpose starts out as something you do in the margins of your life -- before work, after work, on your lunch break, while the kids nap. Don’t let hustle culture convince you that if you’re not making money from it, it’s not valid. Your passion doesn’t need to pay your bills right away to be real. It just needs your devotion because what you water will grow; but you’ve got to keep showing up—even when the direct deposit ain’t hittin’ yet.

It’s okay to have a 9-to-5 and still be building your dream on the side. It’s okay to use your current job as a resource while you pour into what you’re really here to do. That doesn’t make you a sellout. That makes you strategic. Sometimes your job is just the bridge not the destination. Sometimes it's funding your next level. Sometimes it’s teaching you discipline, boundaries, or leadership that you’ll need later on. Don’t curse the bridge just because it ain’t the palace. Walk across it with wisdom. Sometimes “you gotta used what you got to get what you want” – Ronnie

Let’s kill this lie right now: that you’re only walking in divine purpose if you’re struggling. Nah. God didn’t give you gifts just to keep you in survival mode. The same way your gifts can heal, inspire, and build community they can and will also sustain you. You are allowed to charge for your time. You are allowed to build wealth through your talents. You are allowed to thrive doing what you love. Not because money defines your worth but because you’re worthy of an abundant life, and your purpose doesn’t have to live in lack. Let go of the guilt. Let go of the idea that charging for your services is “selling out.” Money isn’t dirty. It’s not the enemy. It’s not spiritual to reject it and it’s not spiritual to worship it but it is spiritual to understand it as part of your ecosystem, something that flows when you’re in the right relationship with your value.

Some may be torn between purpose and provision and that it’s either/or. Either you follow your dreams and go broke trying, or you stay in your job and abandon your calling. Baby, No! You’re bigger than that narrative. Purpose and provision were never meant to be enemies. That’s a false dichotomy rooted in fear, survival thinking, and outdated programming. You might not figure it all out overnight, but trust this: when you honor what’s real for you, when you show up with integrity, when you keep choosing alignment over ego -- the resources come. The ideas come. The support comes. The clarity comes. You must be obedient to your call and have enough courage to take the first steps before everything is clear. You must know you’re worthy of more before it shows up. You must move like you trust the vision -- even when the vision hasn’t turned into a check yet.

Investing in yourself is not a luxury -- it’s sacred. So many of us were raised to believe that money should only go toward “practical” things -- bills, emergencies, other people’s needs. But when it comes to your own dreams? You hesitate. You shrink. You feel guilty spending money on yourself. Why is that sis? That’s not humility. That’s conditioning. And it’s got to go! Whether it’s a class, a coach, therapy, a retreat, better tools for your craft—investing in your growth is spiritual warfare. You’re telling the Universe, I’m serious about my assignment. You’re saying, I believe in me. You’re declaring that your vision is worthy of support, not scraps. Stop waiting for permission. You don’t need anyone’s approval to go after what’s already in your spirit. The green light has been inside you all along.

Listen, abundance isn’t just about big moves. Sometimes it starts with small shifts:

• Creating a savings jar just for your dream

• Selling one product or service

• Raising your rates

• Asking for what you’re worth

• Saying “no” to what no longer fits

You don’t have to take a giant leap today, but you do have to stop standing still. Momentum creates magic and every time you show up for your purpose -- especially when it’s uncomfortable -- you send a message to the Universe saying: I’m ready.

Suga, your ancestors did not survive everything they did for you to spend your life in survival mode. You were born to build, to expand, to live, not just get by. There is no shame in wanting more. There is no guilt in asking for overflow. Your purpose doesn’t have to mean sacrifice without reward. It doesn’t have to be struggle with no softness. It can be both. Let your life be the proof that you can be in purpose and be paid. You can be aligned and abundant. You can serve others and not abandon yourself. You’re not greedy for dreaming bigger. You’re just remembering who you are.

Living Your Purpose: The Real Tea Wrap-up

This journey is not about reaching some grand finish line -- it’s about choosing, every day, to live with intention. You don’t have to have all the answers today. You don’t have to have a perfect plan. You just have to start. So, what’s one step you can take right now? Not tomorrow. Not next year. Today! Maybe it’s signing up for that class, making that call, posting that content, applying for that job, or just believing that you are worthy of more. The world needs what you have. It needs you. Not the watered-down, scared version of you, but the bold, purpose-driven, real you. So go ahead, step up and show out. The life you’re meant for is waiting.

You’ve been pouring into yourself while reading, now it’s time to reflect and apply. Grab your journal, light a candle, say a prayer, or just find a quiet space where you can really connect with Spirit. This is your sacred moment. Don’t rush it. Don’t overthink it. Just be honest, open, and willing.

Sit, reflect and be honest with yourself when you ask:

1.       What parts of me feel most alive when I’m doing them?

2.       If I stopped trying to impress and started trying to feel, what would I be doing?

3.       When’s the last time I felt like everything clicked—even if just for a moment?

4.       Who or what in my life feels like a clear “yes”?

5.       What dreams or passions have I been sleeping on?

6.       If I gave my younger self a voice right now, what would she say I’m meant to do?

7.       What is one small, meaningful shift I can commit to this week?

8.       How do I want to feel at the end of each day—and what choices get me closer to that?

9.       What version of me have I been postponing?

10.  What’s one brave thing I can do today that my future self will thank me for?